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Take a look at this illustration.  It’s a model of human relating. It has various names, the Drama Triangle or, Victim Triangle.  I’ll be calling it the Drama to Empowerment Dynamic, since it’s a moving model.  I call to your attention a mental state or attitude...

Emotional Mastery is the ability to have someone get mad as hell at you and before you get mad as hell back at them, transform the anger to something different and better.  In an emotionally masterful state, you have a choice of how to respond, instead of automatically reacting, which looks...

As a teacher of energy, I’ve noticed that each energy has a light and shadow side.  

The shadow side is when energy is stuck. The light side is when energy is flowing. 

An example:  Guilt and passion are the same energetic.  Passion is energy moving; guilt is energy...

Frequently people comment on my social media posts.  “You’re really out there”, they say.  Or, “It seems like you’re going for it.”

What they are getting at is, I post about sex and intimacy and my own experiences as a teacher, leader and lover.

It...

Does pleasure seem frivolous? Indulgent? After all, isn’t there serious work to do? And what about all the problems of the world, the weather, our workplace and the difficult people around us?  

No, not actually. There is no serious work to be done, although there may be tasks...

You know the difference between Country Western music and Hip Hop, don't you?

Each has its special rhythm, feel or vibe.  Each lends a different mood to the party.

Same with work and play.  Each has its mood, feel and vibe.

The vibe of work is:  hard. ...

Where do you go for fulfillment?  For so many people I talk to, the cup is half empty.  One area of their life or another is “not working”.  This is a perennial complaint I hear in our workshops and coaching sessions.

My area of expertise is how males and females...

Who’s happier, 3-year-olds or 33-year-olds?  It’s not a trick question.  

If you can’t answer, go by a nursery school and watch the kids.

Then drop by a coffee shop or bar where Millennials hang out.  Notice the differences between the...

Your body has two functions.  The first is productive.  You’ll probably agree, without a body, not much gets done.

Defacto, you experience life through your body.  Your car or bike is your craft (as in vehicle) through which you navigate transportation.  Your body...

Do you take comfort in order and certainty?  Self-help guru Tony Robbins names among 6 human needs both variety and certainty.  Variety (or uncertainty) is the need for the unknown, for change and new stimuli.  Certainty is the assurance that we can avoid pain and gain pleasure.

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Does the thought of making a new year’s resolution put joy in your heart? 

Often, people look at resolutions like a task, and a boring one at that. Resolutions pit mind over matter to avoid an old habit or begin a new one.  

But, as a 2016 research study shows,...

Will anything actually change for you in 2022?

Flip your calendar to a new year...but same old stuff.  Be truthful.  It's a “new year”, but do you really think anything will change?

I hate to play Debbie Downer.  And, I value being real.

Lasting...