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Become the Thermostat - You set the temperature

Giving credit where it’s due, my friend and colleague Sharon Melnick, Ph.D. penned the term “be the thermostat”.
Her book, In Your Power:  React Less, Regain Control, Raise Others, addresses “Are you the thermostat or the thermometer?”

Get it?  You ca...

Ladies, when walking down a city street, have you been whistled at?

When you walk in a room, do you become aware of men’s heads turning as they watch you go by?

The same magnetic force that draws a man’s attention to you in these scenarios is at play, all the time, with every man you meet.

This a...

 If you’re a woman, you may not yet own your feminine assets that make you able to lead people (including men) with grace, humor and ease.  That’s why you ought to keep reading this short article that could change your ability to get what you want, without aggression, intimidation or assertiveness.

You may be wondering, now that you earn your own living, live alone, and own a vibrator, what do I really need a man for?  This, my dear, is a wonderful, exciting and potentially cosmic question that can lead to your cosmic enlightenment.

Let's talk about our needs, wants and desires.  Needs are pr...

Take a look at this illustration.  It’s a model of human relating. It has various names, the Drama Triangle or, Victim Triangle.  I’ll be calling it the Drama to Empowerment Dynamic, since it’s a moving model.  I call to your attention a mental state or attitude that this dynamic shows us very clear...

Emotional Mastery is the ability to have someone get mad as hell at you and before you get mad as hell back at them, transform the anger to something different and better.  In an emotionally masterful state, you have a choice of how to respond, instead of automatically reacting, which looks like “Ga...